Goals, consequences, choices, and you

        While walking in a local park, I was reminded about the role of making choices. There is an intersection of several paths that has a footbridge, a bench, and steps. I took a picture of the spot with sunlight beaming down on the steps. My time for the park was short, so I chose the quickest way to the parking lot. Otherwise, I could have selected a different path to get more exercise and photo opportunities. Not making a choice would voluntarily strand me in the woods. 

        Many choices are automatic in that you have a goal and apparent steps to completion. Too many choices can cause a delay while you evaluate. When presented with multiple paths, it is okay to scout each path before committing. A deadline may prevent exploration, but a vantage point may reveal a more efficient way. However, using a proven method is best if there is one. Sometimes, additional steps present themselves and prolong the journey, or there are roadblocks. A dead end rarely nullifies the goal. Choosing not to continue for the sake of quitting is the only wrong choice. 

        Goals, consequences, and choices are inseparable. In this blog, I focus on goals and choices you have freely chosen, not what circumstances life has provided you. I prefer to be proactive rather than reactive when making choices. Life can be cruel, and we can choose how to react if we control our emotions, but that is easier said than done. Allow time for your emotions to play out, prioritize recovery, and get the help that you need. In any case, allow time for cooler heads, contemplation, research, and comparison. Rushing a decision rarely provides the best outcome and increases the odds of unintended consequences. 

        Exploring options is a good brain exercise, and the process can be a goal itself. But avoid getting lost in the distraction or turning it into procrastination. Revisiting options is also a way to remind yourself of alternate methods. You might select a different approach when pursuing similar goals.  

        Goals are sometimes hard to define, and it is okay not to know until you get there. We have an idea and a direction we think will be helpful, and we start walking or working. The learning process is as much the goal as the light over the next hill. Make notes and take pictures of the journey. If you are breaking new ground, this will allow you to retrace your steps and build a better path forward. 

        Consequences and regrets are inevitable but are mostly manageable using three basic rules. First, avoid the regret and consequences of not starting. Second, avoid making regrettable choices that lead to harmful consequences. Third, not all consequences are negative or permanent. Pursuing a calculated risk is another way to avoid regret. Gambling is a leisure activity, not a way of life, but taking a chance is healthy. Minimizing risks and consequences with planning can reveal additional unforeseen treasures. 

        Making choices can be intimidating because they involve a form of commitment. The person making the choice is ultimately responsible for the outcome. Not having to make a choice is a rare luxury. But letting life decide for you is flirting with disaster. Taking control of your decision-making is empowering and leads to growth. It becomes easier to organize your thoughts the more you practice exploring, planning, or weighing decisions. Life will present you with many situations where you can only react. Enjoy the choices that are yours to make. 

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