Make it the summer of love what you do

        May was frustrating. The spring wildflowers on my list are fleeting, and I had extra workdays that interrupted breaks in the rain. The locations of the flowers are also dispersed around central Virginia—Pink Lady Slipper Orchids in Ruckersville, Trilliums in Nelson County, and elusive Trout Lilies TBD. The usual suspects were around, but everything bloomed early this year, so I was late to arrive. Botanical FOMO almost replaced the fact I was doing several things I love while chasing the seasonal bouquet.

        It is bad enough that we are short on time for hobbies or leisure activities, but we should feel love when in pursuit. Take a moment to appreciate your ability to have the pursuit, and then take that nap. When stacking hobbies into a single day or multitasking, resist the feeling that it is work. Go on a different day with a plan instead of making a failed attempt at spontaneity. You will save time and frustration if you figure out where you are going, what to bring, and what to expect. If you know time is limited, then limit the activity and enjoy whatever is there.

        In the case of my wildflower obsession, I will plan better for next year and put some things on the calendar. I might also request a day off from work and make the best of the weather. I will be walking in the woods, enjoying the scenery, and taking pictures of more than the target. The outdoors has variables such as obstructions, fall hazards, and other target placement issues. But I will be there and not at home wishing. I will not melt in the rain, but I will also not feel I am missing out if the weather forces me inside to play video games.

        The same attitude applies if social activities or being seen are more your speed. Family time will benefit when it doesn’t feel obligatory or forced. Maybe make a game out of a silly topic or silently watch a drama that sums up everyone’s dysfunctions—you know, nothing complex or contentious, ha-ha. Remember sunscreen for beach time. Go wild at the club, but don’t drive. Allow the activity to provide enjoyment. Build the raft, not the river.

        You must make time for play. I don’t care how busy or serious a person you are; we all need to play. Some may refer to such endeavors as practice or training. Whatever your name for it is, it should not include complaining. Instead of staring at screens, reallocate that time for something useful, like planning better ways to goof off. Daydreaming is healthier than digital addiction. You do not need to explain yourself or create an excuse. Have some fun.

        The top goal for your free time should be stress reduction, not escalation. People scream for fun on roller coasters in addition to their terror response. If there is no fun involved in your leisure activity, then you are doing it wrong. I am not telling you to stop and smell the roses. I am suggesting that if you have difficulty enjoying your limited downtime, you should adjust your expectations or approach. Make your waste of time meaningful and efficient. Make lazy people look active. Or run a marathon. Whatever you choose, love what you do this summer.

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